Congested, crowded, over-capacity are words that currently describe my situation. So far this week I have learned that extending the bubble is an act of courage, there is a mysterious pain in my jaw, and for reasons unknown, I’m channeling Oscar Wilde. Here’s the deal, we’re all living in quarantine, but some of us are […]


The Set-up Edward Lindaman says one of life’s most fulfilling moments occurs in the split-second when the familiar is suddenly transformed into the dazzling aura of the profoundly new. This is my objective, making the familiar new, Edward’s a little more flowery. Whatever. I’m not big on resolutions, I make them, but they fizzle as […]


Racing into the train terminal, I know time is of the essence, I see them clear as day, they’re holding hands, but appear lost? After running the space of a basketball court, I greet my very deceased, but surprisingly present Mom and Dad. The next thing I know I’m standing next to Dad, he’s older […]


Life is an unanswered question, but let’s still believe in the dignity and importance of that question. Tennessee Williams With the power of a horrific storm we are lifted into the air, and unceremoniously dropped in New York City, the wonderful land of Awe’s, where everyone wears black, and walks really fast. I had my […]


Resides my heart, longing for me is sometimes an impulse for words, fingers lightly grazing the keyboard, assembling emotions impossible to embrace, but as if a compass which magnetically points one towards a destination, this wistful desire has landed our family in Lisbon, Portugal for the Thanksgiving holiday. As Andre Gide reminds us we cannot […]


On a sauntering walk with friends along the Los Gatos Creek Trail one of my companions says, “I’m having a hard time adjusting to this stage of life.” “How so?” “I don’t think my husband and I fit together the same way we used to?” “Thank God, because I can no longer sleep in the […]


If you make a pot of soup (unlike a baseball field) people will not necessarily come, you have to invite folks to your table, especially if the invitation is a call to deeper truth and love. Yes, stay with me, I’m going there! The word hospitality derives from the Latin word hospes, meaning host, guest, […]


“What the hell happened to so and so,” I ask my sister during one of our early morning coffee chats. “I don’t know, haven’t heard from her in years,” she said. “Strange.” “Very.” Autumn makes me nostalgic, not in a celebratory way like New Year’s, but in a sow what you reap sort of way, […]


There are many ways in which we can improve each others lives and I realize I spend a lot of time thinking about this possibility, it’s why I write, and hopefully why you read Living in the Gap. As T.F. Hodge claims, dream on it, think on it, ink on it, speak on it…then proceed […]